Wedding Guests: Who To Invite And Where To Start
In the “old days” we think people actually mailed addresses, and telephone numbers for cousins and Aunts and Uncles to the Bride for them to try and keep up with!
Thank goodness for Google!
“The Cloud” makes wedding planning so much easier! You can share Google Docs (or use Evernote) and share a spreadsheet with everyone involved in planning the Big Day! The Mother of the Bride, and the Mother of the Groom can see who is on the list, who is coming to the Wedding, the Rehearsal Party, or a Bridal Shower! Brilliant!
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Here are some other Tips for deciding who to Invite to the Wedding:
- Before creating a master guest list, you and your spouse-to-be make a list, your parents make a list, and spouse-to-be’s parents make a list. Again, we suggest sharing a Google Spreadsheet so everyone is working off of ONE List. From that list, determine your budget, and come up with the desired number of guests that fit into the budget.
- To prioritize your master list, you first have to determine the must invites, the should invites, and the could invites. (Create a Column on your Spreadsheet) Does your budget cover all the mustinvites? If so, move on to the should invites and then to the could invites. By using this system, you ensure that the people who are most important to you, your spouse-to-be, and your families make the cut.
- As a general rule, always invite family first. Remember that the guests at your wedding are your “witnesses,” so they should be family and close friends whom you care about and will stay in touch with for many years… however, if you’ve never actually MET your mother’s second Cousin… it might be okay to nix her?
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- If any single friend or family member is in a long-term relationship, invite that person and his or her significant other by name even though they aren’t married. Also, if your budget allows, give the single members of the wedding party and any single family members the option of bringing a guest. If your budget doesn’t allow for each single guest to bring a date — and many couples’ budgets don’t — address the invitation appropriately. Don’t include “and guest” in the hopes that they won’t bring one because they probably will.
- Don’t feel obligated to invite co-workers because, after all, you may not work with them six months after the wedding. Remember, no hanging invitations on workplace bulletin boards! If your budget allows, you can follow the unwritten rule that says to invite the co-workers and business acquaintances you socialize with outside of work. However, inviting everyone on your team except one person isn’t appropriate.